I’m asked a very similar question by guys time and time again: ‘How can I get a girl to be cool with the fact that I love being single’

I was having a similar discussion with a female friend the other day about the topic and she re-affirmed the guys’ question with her own view that she typically dislikes guys who fashion themselves as “tom cats” ..

The conversation then drifted to myself and the fact that most women in my life, including the friend with whom I was having this conversation and any girl that I date, knew that I was not interested in being in a long term relationship, and actually enjoyed that facet of my identity.

So what was the big difference between myself and the rest of those single guys that most women I know “can’t stand”?

To put it bluntly, most of the guys who like being single are usually a little bit strange. The main motivation for this is an insecurity with themselves and a need to not want open up to someone else.

I mean some guys would rather watch sports and play video games than actually put in some work into a relationship.

Now video games are fun, but shouldn’t we be growing up at some point?

I know this mindset vividly because sadly, most of it has applied to me at one point or another in my life. Luckily for everyone in my life, my hurt feelings have subsided and my confidence has grown.

Let’s now contrast this with my current point of view:

I absolutely enjoy being single! When I go on a date with a woman it’s not to build up my confidence or have something to brag about, it’s because I enjoy the company.

This is fairly obvious to anyone who spends any significant amount of time with me.

Now don’t get me wrong. Of course there are women who are looking for a man to settle down with. There’s nothing wrong with this and I genuinely respect our differences in opinion

While this happens sometimes, many other women are happy to enjoy the company of someone as a friend.

I’m also not saying that I’m anti-commitment. When I meet that amazing girl that makes all other women pale in comparison in my eyes I very much look forward to being committed to her and her alone and stop trying to attract women.

One thing I will never do is lie about my feelings before then.

Getting back to the point at hand, I feel as though the same difference holds true for women. Society is far to quick to throw around negative terms for women who want to be single.

So guys, if you want to be single and not have people turn their noses up at you for it, then do it proudly.

Will everyone agree with your point of view? Of course not. But will most people appreciate and respect it because it comes from a place of genuine goodness and love for yourself?

I think so.

Author Bio: coaches, specializing in teaching guys how to pick up women. The original article can be found here: The Power To Attract.

Category: Dating
Keywords: dating, single, pick up women, friends