Anger management is a much misused term and is treated by some as a joke. It`s no laughing matter, however, for those who find that their lives are being badly affected by their uncontrollable outbursts of anger. While this is a natural emotion that we all feel, for many people it has caused them to lose partners and even their jobs.

The first step to controlling your anger is to break the `anger habit`. Yes it is a habit, as much as biting your nails. As soon as something unpleasant happens in your life, those familiar feelings of frustration and resentment begin to rear their ugly heads, and you are so used to them you just go with the flow. The first step is to recognize the situations that bring about these destructive emotions.

A lot of people find that they get these anger outbursts at work. If they ask for a piece of work to be done and it isn`t completed on time and/or is of a sub-standard quality, they fly at the person to blame instead of being constructive. Think about it carefully, you may know what you want and when you want it by, but have you actually told the other person this? Why should they know automatically? If they could read minds they would be on the stage not in an office or a factory. Next time you want anything doing, call in whoever you want to do it and sit them down. Tell them exactly what you want and by when, ask them if they have any questions, and be approachable. Treating people badly at work is akin to bullying, and can get you into serious trouble.

Driving is another area where anger comes to the fore. Commonly known as road rage, this has resulted in some tragic consequences over the years. Yes, it is annoying when someone cuts in front of you or doesn`t indicate properly, but please, think about this logically. What will it get you by throwing a tantrum? You will be taking your concentration off your driving, which makes you as bad as them and ultimately you can`t be responsible for the way other people to drive. Since the invention of the motor car, there have been idiots on the road, and there always will be. Accept that you can`t change things or start getting the bus!

Anger in the home can arise from dozens of situations, if you find you are constantly losing it with your partner then you are being unfair to both of you. If everything they do gets you into a fury, then you should let them go to find happiness with someone who will love them for their faults and all. This is an area where a lot of people find that it is their ridiculously exacting standards that causes the outbursts. If you are fastidiously clean and tidy, why are you with someone who couldn`t care less? Did you really think you could change them? I know opposites attract, but longstanding relationships come from those who are matches in the key areas, such as personality and attitude.

There are many programs available online, and you really should check them out if your anger is affecting your life. A good, hard look at yourself won`t go amiss.

Author Bio: You can have access to articles about self help in portuguese language from page Self_Help Roberto Sedycias works as IT consultant for Polomercantil

Category: Self Help
Keywords: Anger Management, self help