Elaine Sihera, aka Ms. CYPRAH (for Cyber-Oprah), is a renowned authority worldwide on emotional health. Recently she shared some of her expert insights on the topic of what she identified as the seven key attributes of a truly confident person. The evidence that positive thinking individuals achieve so much more than others is quite well documented. Accordingly, I think it worth taking another look at these essential characteristics and making a mental note to include them in our own self development plans.

Attribute #1, Self Image. This first attribute is a very crucial one, for without self-love we can’t really have confidence at all. Loving and accepting one’s self is at the core of confidence and from which decides our self-esteem. It just isn’t possible to be happy and confident while disliking ourselves, our minds or our bodies. When we lack self love we are prone to misery and dissatisfaction over our life’s circumstances. Happiness begins from within and when we love ourselves and do not feel compelled to seek the approval of others, we build real contentment and the next key factor, self-belief.

Attribute #2, Self Belief. Along with self-love comes an amazing belief in ourselves and what we can accomplish. Possibilities are limitless; self-believers feel that they can achieve whatever they believe and pursue it without fear. Barriers or obstacles to achievements are not viewed as such because self-believers feel that they posses whatever tools are needed to remove those blocks. There is no crises that can’t be overcome. That is the primary difference between a confident person and a fearful one: the former believes that they have the power to affect their lives, while the latter looks to others to do it for them.

Attribute #3, Comfort in Themselves. Essentially, confident people are completely satisfied with who they are. In fact, they love who they are, don’t want to be someone else, and don’t feel they need anyone’s approval or acceptance of who they perceive themselves to be. They feel a strong sense of belonging and personal security. Even when facing a setback, they see it as but a temporary inconvenience which, because of their self value and inherent talents, will soon be overcome. They tend to act more independently and in a leadership role, inspiring others and setting the pace, with little concern about following current fashion.

Attribute #4, Self Awareness. Confident people know what they can and can not do. They fully accentuate their positives and acknowledge, but don’t dwell upon, their negatives. They see both as being fundamental parts of the unique beings they are. They know what cheers them and what saddens them. Being leaders and optimists, they’re secure in their direction and objectives because they know who they are and what they want. This is truly the first major step to increasing achievement and personal development.

Attribute #5, Fearlessness. Confident people are often pioneers, fearless in their approach and actions. They don’t lack the typical fears of survival; they just are unencumbered by limiting and paralyzing fears such as plague less secure and troubled people. Indeed, people with high self esteem are eager to get on with their life, prone to act first and consider their fears later. They are willing to take risks and make sacrifices in the course of living their lives to the fullest.

Attribute #6, Experiment. Totally confident people love to experiment, pursue new situations, innovate and create. They’re always pushing the limits of their abilities because of their high self esteem. They are not afraid to make mistakes because they know that they learn and grow from them. Being wrong is not a concern, finding a solution or better result is the focus. Persistence, tenacity, self belief and determination are all common qualities of truly confident people.

Last, attribute #7, Happiness. Confident people are really happy with their life. That doesn’t mean that they are never sad. It just means that when they are sad, it doesn’t last very long, and they are soon back up again. They know that they can always do something else and produce a different result. They don’t blame themselves nor entertain doubts about their abilities. Rather, they maintain an inner peace and go with the flow, knowing that setbacks are temporary and all that they need to do is get back up, brush themselves off, and give it another go, remaining focused on their goals. Above all, since they are contented with themselves and their bodies, confident people tend to be truly happy, approachable, usually cheerful, and quick to smile.

So, can we agree that it is preferable to be a person who is truly confident? One whose self image and self belief is high, and who is comfortable with and fully aware of themselves? A person who is unencumbered by fear, who feels free to experiment, and who is just naturally an upbeat and happy individual? That seems reasonable to me!

But perhaps you’re not there yet. Hopefully, you want to be. Maybe there are anxieties that are holding you back. Could there be fears that are keeping you down? Possibly phobias of one type or another are limiting you. Even obsessive compulsive behaviors may be a factor. If any of these conditions are negatively affecting you, or someone you know and care about, I urge you to watch the video review of the Linden Method on our website and blog identified in the author’s area below and claim the relief that you deserve.

Author Bio: James Nelson has accumulated almost 40 years of successful business experience, and much of it has been based on the maxim, “Do what you do do well, then find others who can do the rest best!” You can learn more about the “Linden Method” on their website and blog at Linden Method. Mr. Nelson is currently President of JuJam Enterprises Incorporated where they focus on “Helping People Help Themselves.”

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