This article about dating girls may be controversial to some people, but read on and see if it is true. Of course you are entitled to your own opinion about what women are really looking for in men. But keep an open mind.

Go ahead. Just as any woman what she is really looking for in their ideal man and she will probably tell you that she wants a nice guy who will buy her flowers often, remembers her birthday, listen to her problems and are really nice to her. Not surprising right?

That is why many men end up becoming that guy she talks about. The same nice guy that girls talk to about their problems, but the relationship usually does not take off any further than being just mere friends. So if it does not workout this way, then what is the problem?

Ok, it is true that women are not lying when they say they want these things as this is only logical. But if you have read my previous articles, you will know that girls don’t logically choose who and what they are attracted to. They have no logical choice, they go by instincts and emotions when picking their ideal man.

The truth is that although women want a man who will buy them flowers and talk to them when they are down, in reality, when it comes down to choosing their ideal man, they instinctively want someone who can take control and act like a man should, not just merely a nice goody two shoes who brings her flowers and take her to swanky restaurants.

Women want real confident men, men who are always in control and don’t ask their permission to do things. Girls being girls don’t want to be in charge, they want their men to be in charge of them. Are you baffled now? Ok, I will clear the cobwebs with some examples.

Did you ever notice that when you give a woman some compliments like telling her how beautiful she is, the most you can get is just a smile and nothing more? But when you notice only a slight flaw about her, she will be all over you wanting to know more and is more serious in the conversation?

Have you also noticed that when you send her flowers and treats her to fancy dinners frequently, she will still be seeing other guys? That means that she is not treating you as the special one. That is why guys always lament that why women take them for granted when they are so nice to the girls.

On the other end of the scale, if you simply just buy her a drink and act like you are more dominant, she will be attracted to you, because you are not scampering to her every need. Not convinced?

Ok, how about this example. When you often call her and ask for dates, she seems to be avoiding your calls and act a bit distant. However, when you stop calling her so often and act nonchalantly, she will be the one calling you non stop. Isn’t this true most of the time?

The real reason is that most women don’t want to be always catered to or spoilt. They may like it from other men, but not their ideal man. Their ideal man is a strong and confident man. In other words, he must be a real man who can stand up on his own and not always groping around to please her like a wimp.

Women want their man to lead the way, not the other way around. They want a leader who does not ask her what she wants him to do. That means that she sees leadership qualities in such men and after all, they are looking for someone who can be in charge of her household and her brood in the future. So they are instinctively looking for a husband material rather than merely someone weaker who submits to her, buys her flowers and treats her like a princess.

Do you see the contradiction? That is why men are always confused and are at a lost as to what girls really want in a man. Now, what do you think?

Author Bio: Chris Chew is a fitness, health and relationship consultant. Read his free articles at What Are Girls Thinking About You and Perfect Male Body Attractive To Girls

Category: Dating
Keywords: girls really want, in a man, women