As just about everyone knows by now, drinking is one of the most serious kinds of addiction. It is damaging not only to the drinker, but to the ones that love them most. Not to mention the possibility of getting arrested, getting killed, or accidentally harming other people as the result of a drunk driving situation.

Of course, it is classic addictive behavior to hide and lie about one’s drinking problem. Nobody wants to admit that they have a real problem. It is only what those in Alcoholics Anonymous call “hitting rock bottom” that people often start to see the real nature of their drinking problem.

For women whose husbands drink and then lie about it and cover it up, life can be a real rollercoaster ride – but in a very unpleasant way. Husbands who drink usually have good days and bad days. But, until he can admit he has a problem, you will never be able to get past the drinking and fix the relationship.

If your husband lies and hides his drinking problem, here are answers to 5 frequently-asked-questions:

1. How can I confirm my husband is lying about his drinking problem?

A: You need to trust your instincts on this. If you notice that his behavior is not sober-seeming and his breath smells of alcohol, he is probably drunk. Just having a drink or two – which is the type of excuse he may give you – is not enough in most cases to make his breath smell like that. Most heavy drinkers are very good at hiding it, so if you suspect something it means he is getting sloppy in his cover-up tactics.

2. How should I bring up his drinking problem to him?

A: Your husband’s lying about his drinking problem is very common. Understand that his lying does not mean he does not respect you enough to tell you the truth. Rather, he is lying to himself as much as anything else. You need to continue bringing up his problem to him until he can admit that there is a problem.

3. How many chances should I give him when he lies and is caught?

A: Until your husband seeks proper treatment for his problem, he may never stop lying or drinking. So, there is no way to set a lie quota. Basically, either he is going to get help or one day you will be too fed up to take it anymore.

4. What do I do if he is mistreating me?

A: If your husband is verbally abusive, it may be time to take a break from your relationship. Go to a relative’s house (if you have kids, bring them with you) and get away from the situation for a while. If he is physically abusive, you may need to permanently stay away.

5. How can I try to save our relationship?

A: First and foremost, your husband needs to fix his drinking problem. This has to happen before your relationship can heal. However, once he does agree to regularly participate in a 12-step program, at that time you will need to switch gears and start repairing your relationship.

Understand the answers to these 5 frequently-asked-questions as you heal your relationship with your husband.

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