What constitutes the value of a man to his wife? This is not an easy question for anyone to answer completely – and certainly no one answer will apply to every marriage.

For many married women, the value of their husband is a combination of many things, such as: who is represents as a person, his ability to contribute to the household, his being a friend, a lover, and even a handyman around the house. And of course, there is the matter of his character.

Women usually hold a deep respect for the men they marry. Respect is a cornerstone of a good marriage. That is why, when a man has an affair, it can be common for his wife to question his value. She loses respect for him.

If you are wondering, “Is my husband still good enough after his affair?”, here are 5 things to consider:

1. He made a major mistake – there is no denying that:
Nobody in their right mind would deny that your husband made a mistake in doing what he did. Certainly, nobody forced him to cheat on you. And, he knew full well that it was wrong all along. It is important to admit to yourself (and eventually get him to admit) that what he did was just plain wrong.

2. He may not be able to change his cheating ways:
Among those men who have cheated on their wives, some are serial cheaters, committing infidelity after infidelity on their wives. Meanwhile, others have only made this mistake once, and still others had maybe a one-night stand. While all of these “types” are lacking in a certain moral fortitude – or at least had a serious moral lapse – it is the serial cheaters who are the hardest to change. In fact, you should allow the possibility to enter your mind that your husband may never be able to change his ways.

3. If he can change, he is worthy of giving a second chance:
The good news is that many men who have had affairs can and do change their cheating ways. What it takes is forgiveness, trust, communication, and a desire to change. If you believe your husband may fall into this category, it may be very much worth giving him a second chance. The man you fell in love with is still in there somewhere.

4. He has to acknowledge the pain he caused you first:
No matter what happens, for you to consider staying with your husband you will need him to admit in no uncertain terms the pain he caused you. There is no denying what he has done – and how much it has hurt you. He needs to acknowledge this.

5. Your husband has to show you that he is again trustworthy:
The part that will take the longest is for your husband to regain your trust. This is perhaps the hardest part of getting over an affair. But, for your relationship to weather this affair, he will need to be able to show you that he is trustworthy again.

Consider these 5 things about your husband’s affair. After all is said and done, you just may find that the loving man you married is still in there – and is still good enough to deserve your love.

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Category: Relationships
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