Who’s Having This Baby Anyway?

You have married the man of your dreams and the two of you are about to experience the most blessed event of your lives, the birth of your baby. And who wants to be in attendance? His mother! From day one she has pushed his favorite recipes down your throat and told you how to wash his clothes and press his slacks with a perfect pleat. Will it never end? Well, if there was ever a time, it is now here. Otherwise, she will be telling you how to deliver your baby as well. Enough is enough.

Okay, we are going to use tact and wisdom. Outsmart her at her own game. Have your husband talk to her. After all it is his Mom, not yours. But he is afraid he will hurt her feelings and although he doesn’t want her there anymore than you do, he can’t bring himself to do it.

Find another way to make her feel invaluable at this special time but also at a distance. Play on her sympathies. Express how very much just the two of have discussed being by yourselves for this blessed event but because you want her to have a very important role in grandchild’s birth, could she just wait in the waiting room and call all the relatives once the baby arrives?

You have opted to have your Mom there and due to your modesty you really don’t want your mother-in-law seeing you like that. Of course she will protest and she may even get angry but stick to your guns. This is your special time and you have nothing to feel bad about.

The easiest thing to do would be to handle this entire situation before you even go to the hospital for delivery. She could go with you for a couple sonograms. Maybe she could attend a couple doctor visits. But you have to draw the line somewhere and the line has to be exactly where you want it to be. If all the tact in the world fails to work, be firm, expect her wrath, but tell her like it is. Your Mom has always been there for you, and other than your husband she is the only other person you want in the birthing room. One never fail option would be to tell the hospital staff or your doctor of your dilemma and they will simply tell her the number of people allowed in the room is limited. Just make sure and call your Mom right away and make sure she gets there first.

So, try and be as kind as possible. After all she is going to be around for a long time and you can always maintain hope that over those years she improves with age. But whatever you choose, it is your choice to make so pull your shoulders back, stick out your chin and persevere. Otherwise, she will be telling you how to bring up baby. Oh, dear.

Doc. No.: CBFADS729

Author Bio: Colby Brister is a writer for My Baby Bedding Shop and he would like for you to check out his Baby Bedding and Crib Bedding Set and his Modern Baby Bedding.

Category: Parenting
Keywords: Mother In law, Pregnancy