What are some of the causes of infidelity and after the affair is it crazy to even contemplate trying to put things right with your partner? You have had an affair, there is no longer any trust in the relationship therefore it is dead! End of story, goodnight! Or that is what most people would believe. Personally I disagree because I feel that any breakup can be brought back to life if both of you are prepared to work at it. Trust is the big key to getting through this mess and once this has been earned back you could be well on your way to rekindling your love. Let’s check out a few ideas that could show you how to regain some of that trust after your affair.

Firstly, we need to look at some of the more common causes of infidelity. What exactly was it that made you stray? If everything in your relationship was fine there should have been no reason to seek the affections of another. Perhaps there was an underlying problem within the relationship that you were not happy with but just could not figure out what it was.

What was it the you were missing so badly in your relationship that you got yourself mixed up in an affair? Had your sex life become a tired and boring task or was she too busy to give you any time. Sometimes when couples have been together for a long period of time they begin to take each other for granted. She may have let her level of appearance drop. If the basic core of your relationship was so good you would never have had the affair. So what can be done to repair things?

When you are in the first throws of recovering from an affair it could be very easy to lay the blame on just one partner. But the blame for what ever has happened must be shared. The reason that an affair reared its ugly head was because between you, you both made it happen. Without you realizing, cracks began to appear in what was otherwise an ideal relationship and created this humdrum “being together for the sake of it” world. Instead of tackling the smaller problems face on, you let them gradually build into a monster that turned into this affair.

Making relationships work is a two way street and merely understanding what caused the affair is not enough. You both must take some serious steps towards fixing the problem. It is quite easy to just talk about what can be done to put things right but an extremely important step is to actually “do something” that take you towards your ideal of getting back together.

Start by doing little things such as promising to take the trash out every night. This may sound simple and you are probably thinking what this has got to do with relationship trust issues. But by being consistent with the smaller things that you are willing to do, her confidence and trust will build in the bigger picture of your relationship.

There is no getting away from the wrong you have done by having the affair and you will need to get used to her bringing it up every so often. It is something that has happened and it won.

Author Bio: Lavell foster is a Freelance Writer,Finance Consultant and a Counselor. You can contact me at Email:foslvl@aol.com http://www.truthaboutlove.com/?hop=foslvl http://relationships-foslvl.blogspot.com

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