No matter what conditions brought you to your situation of single parenting, the reality is the person who was the most important entity for you before, with whom you once shared intimacy is gone. Life has to move on for both of you, not together, but independent of each other.

You can handle this problem with different approaches. You can try to move forward by holding on to the past and keep thinking of the good times you shared, all the happy moments especially during your wedding, how he melted your heart when he even volunteered to shop for your bridal shower favors and keep you miserable. Or, you can let go of what happened in the past and get going for the brighter things that the future brings.

A former love is particularly hard to deal with after a breakup depending on the intensity of emotions that were shared before. When sexual intimacy was shared, one more connection was created between the two of you. You do everything to undo those ties, but even if you successfully put your emotions behind you, physical intimacy can never be undone and will remain in your memory forever.

So, in one way or another, our exes are here to stay, whether we still see them or never again. Whether they are near or far, living or dead, they exist in our lives especially if you have children who will forever remind you of the relationship you once had.

There is no one perfect formula for doing everything right after a relationship fails. Try to refocus your thoughts on positive things rather than on bitter emotions. Make the children your priority. Try to be the best parent for your children, giving even more of yourself than when you were still a couple. Understand the kind of person your ex is by overcoming hatred, anger and unforgiveness especially if betrayal was committed against you. Don’t let these negative emotions control your life.

Find as much support as you can from family, friends, church and support groups. Act and think as though you will never have another individual to share the load again and learn the coping skills you need to survive. You have to act now and not wait for something good to just be handed over to you. Someone who you can talk anything, who will listen to what you’ll say and understands your character can be really helpful to alleviate the pain.

Time can be your greatest healer but while it is still fresh, time can move very slowly, reminding you of the piercing pain with every tick. Moving on is one of the toughest challenges every individual will have to undergo at one point in their lives. Learn to stand in a defensive pose and be prepared for the worst. But pick up the pieces, get ready to move on and face a new tomorrow. Who knows, you might be preparing your wedding plans, thinking of what promotional items to give away, before you know it.

Author Bio: Jesse Jake Vickers enjoys writing for Hqweddingfavors.com and Corporatesnobs.com which offer promotional products and wedding fans as well as a host of additional products.

Category: Relationships
Keywords: moving on,breakup