It’s been a while since I’ve talked about topics that are very sensitive. The next few posts that I write will be up close and personal. I plan to get very specific on some things that might make you cringe. And I encourage everyone to leave comments and/or share the content with your friends. With that being said, I am a very honest person. I’m very upfront and I have nothing to hide. My life is a open book. Or at least an open blog site.

The last few weeks I have spent a lot of time with SR39. It started with a fun date that resulted in me running out of gas on the way home. A few days later SR39 and I went out for a second date. We went to one of my favorite local bars, Two Brothers. Since it was trivia night, a few of my friends met us there. The night started out fun and ended up with SR39 having a drunk confession. The confession didn’t bother me, because people say all kinds of things when they are drunk. But the serious part comes later.

SR39 and I went back to her apartment in Mckinney. We talked for a few minutes, we kissed, and ended up getting nakkid. And I have to admit, for a 39yr old woman, she has a great body. We had great sex. It was raw, energetic and exhausting. And she called me “Daddy” during sex. The one thing that was out of character for me was…. I didn’t use a condom. I’ll repeat that.. No condom was used.

I’m not concerned with an unwanted pregnancy, because I have a vasectomy. But I am concerned with STD’s, as I mentioned in a previous post. I’ve spent my whole life healthy & disease free. And I want to keep it that way. But the next morning my nightmare became reality. SR39 lifts her head from the pillow and said, “Oh my god! We shouldn’t have done that.” And immediately I wondered what she was talking about.

I have to tell you something. This isn’t the best time to tell you, but I have to tell you this. (pause & deep breath) And she begins to cry.

“I was 24 and I broke up with my asshole boyfriend. I went out with friends and got drunk. At the end of the night I called him for sex and he said come over. A couple days later, I began having female issues and didn’t know what was wrong. So I went to the doctor and I found out I have a STD, genital Herpes. When I confronted him, he just laughed. Since then I’ve been taking Valtrex and I haven’t had a outbreak in years. My ex husband and my last boyfriend don’t have it. I’m so sorry and I feel so bad that I didn’t tell you this upfront.”

So now I’m in a state of shock. I can’t believe that the one (1) time that i didn’t use condoms with a new date, there’s a serious health issue. At least she didn’t say it was HIV or AIDS. And my initial response towards her is compassion, if her story is true. I know it had to be very difficult to tell me under these circumstances, but DAMN! Am I now tainted? Have I contracted genital Herpes? Will I spend the rest of my life taking Valtrex to deal with this? Or is this just a close call and lesson learned?

There are so many questions and emotions going through my head. But now I have to get up and get to the doctor to get tested. I will update you on my test results tomorrow.

Leave your honest thoughts, reactions and comments. I want to hear from you.

Author Bio: Life long interracial dater and father of two.