The average guy out looking to meet women for – either dating or mating – doesn’t expect to fall for a woman with children. But it happens. The older we get, the more likely that some of the women we are meeting have been in very serious previous relationships and might even have some children.

Children are a blessing and enrich life enormously, but they are not to be taken lightly. When dating a woman who already has children, a lot of caution needs to be taken to be sure that the children only have a positive experience from the relationship.

Men shouldn’t even consider meeting a woman’s children until they are fairly certain that they want to – and are likely to – commit to a long term relationship with the mother. It is just not worth meeting kids when it is a short-lived relationship. It is too confusing for them and not fair to them.

If a woman wants to introduce her children right away, it is up to the guy to explain that he would rather wait and to explain why. In the long run this should be a very attractive trait – that he takes children so seriously that he doesn’t want to play any games or take any chances of misunderstood emotions.

The first thing a man should do when he discovers a woman he is interested in has children is broach the subject and explain where he stands. For instance, he could say, “I love children and take them very seriously. I don’t think it is a good idea for them to meet me until you and I have established that we will be seeing each other long-term. I like you and respect you and hope that someday I will meet your children, but let’s take it slow and see where this goes first.”

Now, any mother worth her salt is going to respect and like the man more for his honesty and integrity in this situation.

If the man and mother have been dating awhile and decide it is time to introduce him to the children, it should be done in a neutral location. Rather than have him invade their home or their space, the mother should meet her date somewhere. The first activity should be something that is geared toward the children to help them relax and feel comfortable and give them a chance to get to know the man. Ideas could include roller-skating, ice-skating, or even something as simple as going to the park.

It is probably a good idea for the first date to keep it pretty simple. Something like a trip to Disneyland is over the top and can be saved for later down the road. So find a kid friendly activity, meet somewhere away from both the man’s and mother’s homes and keep it fairly short. A child doesn’t have a super long attention span so it is better to make that first introduction, that first meeting, a little shorter rather than longer. There will be time later for bigger and longer activities.

Author Bio: Bill has been a pick up artist for the last 5 years in NYC and can teach you the skills you need to be one, as well, including how to text a girl. The original article can be found here: Dating Women With Children.

Category: Dating
Keywords: dating tips, relationship advice, seduction