A lot of people nowadays let themselves get trapped in abusive relationships. What always happens is that they put all the blame on the one doing the abusing and thinks that the other person is the only one who has to make a change. But the truth is, it is not just the aggressor who is responsible for the abuse. The one receiving the abuse can also be held responsible for the sufferings that person goes through.

By not doing something to save oneself, the person allows the mistreatment and abuse. Being a victim is, after all, a choice.

So if you feel stuck in an abusive relationship, the choice to get out of it is yours. Here are some changes you may need to make in order to help yourself.

1. Increase your self-value. A person who has self-worth, self-love, and respect for oneself will not permit such an abuse to take place. In fact, some people who have a high level of self-confidence do not tolerate even the slightest misconduct from others, most especially if it has become a pattern, such as what happens in abusive relationships.

So the first thing you have to do is try and increase the value you give to yourself. You do not deserve to be mistreated and abused. And you have every right to stand up for yourself when subjected to such things.

The problem is, most people aren’t acutely conscious of their own worth. Maybe because they’ve been subject to abuse and negative talk their whole lives, from since they were kids. Some people feel insecure as well. They think that if they leave their abusive relationships, they won’t ever find anyone else who will put up with them.

The truth is, you are a loving person who also deserves to be loved, valued, cared for, and respected. No one has to put up with you; the right person will be happy and honored to be in a relationship with you.

To help you realize these truths about your own value, you can get help from subliminal messages. You can send these positive messages straight to your subconscious. Subliminal messages work because they don’t pass through the conscious mind. So even if you remember negative experiences and comments from people who have made you feel low and unappreciated before, the conscious mind will not be able to use these as arguments because the positive messages will be planted directly on your subconscious.

2. Change the way you look at the situation. You can also use subliminal messages to change your perception of the situation. Some people get blinded; they see their willingness to stay in the relationship as a sign of love and perseverance. They convince themselves that they are doing the right thing.

This is what you have to change. You are not in a relationship ruled by love, so do not let yourself be tied to that idea anymore.

3. Make the decision. Once the subliminal messages take root, you can now make the final decision to get out of the relationship. One decision is all it takes. Just pack your bags and leave.

4. Move on. And finally, after making the decision and after leaving, make sure that you move on. Do not let yourself be pulled back into the relationship if you think there is still a chance of the abusive pattern recurring. Move on because the right person is not one who will subject you to any form of abuse.

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