She’s hot for you. Then she’s not.

It seems like the most dropped balls in the dating world tend to do with texting.

Texting has changed the way people date and interact dramatically. I see repeatedly guys who are swimming along just fine and then are given the cold shoulder. It usually works like this:

The texting banter is witty, catchy, and warm and involves some smiley faces and laugh out louds on her part. There might even be some innuendos and it really seems to be going great.

Now, what tends to happen, at least from the stories guys share with me, is that as soon as a guy mentions taking it a step further, getting together in person, the girl grows cold. Nine times out of ten, she won’t even respond at all.

This leads me to believe that guys are making the mistake in how they try to set up the meeting. They manage to maintain a great alpha male attitude throughout the majority of the texting conversations, but as soon as they go to ask her out or set up a meeting, they fall flat.

Their wimpy, neediness shines through crystal clear.

It’s all in how the date is set up. Most guys use the usually, straight forward way of saying something, such as “How about we grab lunch this week and talk about it more?”

More often than not, that results in silence.

It almost never seems to work.

That means, to me, that guys need to look at a different way of arranging a meeting, at least if it is going to be done by text.

Here are some tips I suggest to snag that first meeting.

1. The first thing you should do is try to avoid setting up the date by text in the first place. Instead, actually dial her number and ask her with your voice, not your typing. This is the best way to make it happen. If she doesn’t pick up, don’t leave a message.

2. The second thing to do is don’t make it sound like a date for crying out loud. Instead, arrange to be doing something super cool with your friends and call her to tell her about it. Say, “Hey, me and my buddies are checking out this new club Saturday night, you should grab some friends and meet us there.”

By saying this, is it totally low-key, low-pressure, and leaves her wondering if you are interested in her romantically or not. This is a good thing. A little bit of mystique is what builds attraction. Being predictable and boring is what turns women off. So, make it casual and apparent that you are going to be out having fun with or without her around.

3. If you have to contact her solely by text, do the same thing but with less detail. Say, “Checking out new club Saturday. Come by. See you there.”

If you notice, this is very cocky and self-assured. You’re not asking her. You are telling her. Girls like this attitude. If she already has plans, you can gauge her interest in you by how she tells you or what she says about it later on.

Bill has been at Pick Up Forum for the last 7 years in NYC and can teach you the skills you need to be one, as well, including how to meet women. The original article can be found here: Make Her Hot To Meet You.

Bill Preston has been studying personal development and dating advice for the past 7 years and is a guest instructor at the top Pick Up Artist Boot camp in NYC. He loves sharing his experience and expertise with other men looking to improve their lives. Find out more at http://www.puaforums.com

Author Bio: Bill has been at Pick Up Forum for the last 7 years in NYC and can teach you the skills you need to be one, as well, including how to meet women. The original article can be found here: Make Her Hot To Meet You.

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