Today, half of all marriages end in divorce. It is estimated that more than a quarter of the American population, between the ages of 18 and 44, are children whose parents have separated. The long-term effects of divorce on children have been unknown until recently. A psychologist named Judith Wallerstein has spent the past 25 years researching divorce and its effects. Over that time, she followed the lives of 93 children from broken families. She compared these results with those of children whose parents were still together. Wallerstein concluded that the effects of divorce do not dissolve by adolescence. Instead, divorce is more likely to affect people entering into adulthood, between their twenties and thirties.

While girls and boys are equally affected by divorce, they tend to show it in different ways. Boys tend to exhibit their anger and hurt through behavior problems, such as acting out in school. On the other hand, girls tend to deal with their feelings on a more internal level. They may become depressed, create physical symptoms, such as headaches and stomachaches, or exhibit changes in their eating and sleeping habits.

The marriage may be long over, but the effects of divorce are often cumulative. While the news of a divorce will surely impact a child, the years that follow play a key role in the rest of that child\’s life. Often, the child of divorced parents lacks a relationship model to follow. He/she doesn\’t know what a healthy relationship looks like, and therefore will have trouble creating a healthy relationship of his/her own. The child may have doubts about marriage and starting a family, as well.

There are a few factors that can impact how a child may handle his/her parents getting divorced. If the parents are constantly competing for the child\’s affections, or even putting the child in the middle of an argument, the situation will have a greater negative impact on the child. No child wants to take sides between parents. Putting that kind of pressure on a child will only add to his/her emotional and psychological distress. Similarly, custody battles can be detrimental to a child.

The best way to handle a divorce is often with divorce mediation, especially if things can be settled out of court. The child will be able to see that even though the marriage didn\’t work, his/her parents can still be respectful of one another. This will give the child the security in knowing that a relationship can still be had with both parents. When a child has healthy relationships with his/her parents, future relationships with others will also be healthy. Another thing to remember is that children are adaptable. They can get used to change. A civil relationship between parents will make it easier for the child to go back and forth between the two as well.

While divorce can be hard on everyone, it is important to look at the positive side of things. When a marriage is full of conflict and stress, the child will also suffer. By being honest with the child, offering love and support, and remaining respectful with one other, divorce can even be beneficial.

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