A father who does not provide for a family that he was part of creating. Does not have morals or a responsible enough nature to realize how difficult he is making life for his family (Urban Dictionary).

All men who are called “Dead Beat Fathers” do not necessarily fit the above description. There are men out there who have actually paid the necessary support to keep the family afloat…and have done so very selflessly. Some men are literally working to pay child support and they do so, proudly. I know fathers who have made very little income and the child support enforcement agency still took astronomical amounts from their checks…and Instead of griping and complaining and requesting lower rates, they continued pay it-taking on extra employment just to survive. The good providing father will do less for themselves, just to ensure their children did not live in hardship. Some men are literally working to pay child support and they do proudly.

As the good providing father is doing his best, the scorned (custodial) mother, will poison the minds of the children into believing the father is doing nothing and does not care for them-some will even say that the father is dead. Which puts distance between the father and children. Now we have confused children. How does society define this? I know one case where the wife of a marine, would call the police or the marine\’s unit whenever they would have disagreement or if he is out to late. This caused the marine to lose rank, thus losing money. Did she realize that she was hurting the total income of the household, with the frivolous phone calls…or is it that the heart makes people do things that they do not mean? The good father goes to school to better his financial situation, so that he can take care of his responsibilities and survive simultaneously. I believe if the father is doing what he can to continue to provide for his children, he should be praised.

In my own personal situation-my children were the motivation that I needed to go to college and finish. I began to realized that the more education that I received, the more money earning power I was gaining. I literally became obsessive about education. I now have 3 AA degrees, 2 BA degrees, a MA degree and working towards a psychological doctorate degree. I did this for survival. If I did not earn more money…no-way I was going to survive.

There are thousands of men in the United States who are on the run from paying child support. Example… I know a man who has a bachelor degree in mathematics and works as a substitute teacher instead of working as a lead teacher. He does this because he is \”purposely\” avoiding paying child by working only temporary jobs. Now that fits the true definitions of Deadbeat father. Author: Timothy M. Sinclair, MAT

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The author is an assistant director for the Child Youth and School Services on Fort Bragg, North Carolina. He has been the Director of Head Start for the County and City of Durham, NC. Has been working in the Education field nearly 20 years. http://www.facebook.com/timothy.m.sinclair

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Category: Parenting
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