STOP BEING A (PUSH OVER) WHO ALWAYS SAYS YES

Do you feel the need to please? You always agree with the prevailing opinion, even when you feel its deeply wrong? You constantly ask what others think of your actions?

In this case you are (addicted) to the approval by others, and Steve Siebold strongly disagreed with your behavior! The speaker and author stresses that this trait of character is one of the most destructive and debilitating of all. (This prevents people from realizing their potential. Their whole life becomes centered on the impossible task of satisfying others.) Siebold message is simple: Change your perception of success! (Climbing the career ladder, saying only what others want to hear is synonymous with mediocrity and generates frustration in your personal live.) According to the social adviser Heidi Cowie, a specialist in stress management, people who say yes to all are living a false existence (The worst part is that despite everything, there will always be someone somewhere who will not like their way to be.) (If all our self-esteem is built according to the opinion of others, we are paving the way for a miserable life of delusions) says Cowie. (This is the quickest way toward depression, anxiety and the inability to imagine that we deserve a better life, a loving relationship plus stable and faithful friends.) As per Siebold, whose career is to provide advice on mental concentration to contractors and businessmen, most of the population are (addicted) to others approval in varying degrees, but they completely ignore the existence of the problem. Know that career opportunities can be strongly limited by conformism. Siebold specifies that to sell a product, an idea or a service is a fundamental component of personal development. (Knowing how to sell yourself is even a great quality, but it all requires overcoming the fear of rejection.) Indeed, many people are emotionally devastated when someone says no to them.

They will do anything to avoid conflicts and therefore rejections. This reflex is very difficult to overcome without some form of support or emotional advices. (The vanity of an individual is sometimes so fragile that the slightest criticism or negative response get them all discouraged. From where stems this apparent willingness to please everyone. Some people are able to rehash old stories of over 50 years ago and remained marked by criticism they have received a very long ago.) But beware: There\’s a big difference between lying to yourself and being nice to others. (In truth, no one consciously chooses to be limited, attached and deceived by their own lies), specifies Siebold. (Those who always say yes are unable to love themselves if they do not receive compliments from others. They look for flattery as an alcoholic seeks beer or an addict\’s his drug dose. Certainly in life we can make the conscious choice to be cooperative and generous, and say yes to please. (If you show disapproval, do it in a constructive and positive manner. The key is in the mental focus: You have to attack the problem without attacking your interlocutor emotionally or feel attacked in return.) Unfortunately, he concluded, (there are people who will follow the herd all their lives. The day they dare to do something daring, the herd will express disapproval and presto! They will return immediately with the herd.)

SELF-EXAMINATION

Heidi Cowie discovered a simple way (to deprogram) people who lack authenticity. If you feel ill at ease after having divergent opinions with someone, ask yourself the following three small questions.

1. On a scale of 1 to 10 (10 being a matter of life or death), how do you classify the situation that just happened?

2. What is the worst consequence that could arise because of it?

3. Are you real in your disagreement? In other words, are you in disagreement for the sole purpose of deliberately hurting your interlocutor?

ARE YOU A YES MAN?

Answer Heidi Cowie\’s quick questionnaire. You might put in question some of your preconceived ideas.

A. Are you preoccupied by the opinion of others on your subject?

B. Are you stopping yourself from doing certain things for fear of the disapproval of others?

C. Do you suffer from anxiety if someone seems angry against you?

D. Do you think the opinions of others are greater than yours?

If you answered yes to all these questions, your need for approval is great and certainly blocks your personal journey.

INDULGING YOURSELF

Become a more genuine person thanks to the advices from Steve Siebold, a consultant to businessmen and high-level athletes.

I. Take decisions based on your own self and consider the approval of others as (just a plus).

II. Never go against your values to please others or to silence critics.

III. Be determined and get up to defend what you take at heart. Even your opponents will respect your strength of character.

IV. Have confidence in yourself. Your opinion counts as much as that of others, so make sure that it is taken into consideration.

V. Take risks when you believe it\’s worth it.

VI. Learn to say no and live your life in a manner that pleased you.

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A self employed design draftsman who would like to learn internet marketing, I like biking, inventing, surfing the web, TV, movies, reading, walking and more… Since I was raised on a farm of course I love animals. We had a collie on the farm who we all loved a lot, he would go fetch the heard of cows in the morning and at night for milking time all by himself. I preferred that he did that chore instead of me, the Jersey cows bulls are very bad tempered, they respect dogs but not humans. For dog training tips, I invite you to visit the following website: http://bestdogtrainingsolutions.net

Author Bio: A self employed design draftsman who would like to learn internet marketing, I like biking, inventing, surfing the web, TV, movies, reading, walking and more… Since I was raised on a farm of course I love animals. We had a collie on the farm who we all loved a lot, he would go fetch the heard of cows in the morning and at night for milking time all by himself. I preferred that he did that chore instead of me, the Jersey cows bulls are very bad tempered, they respect dogs but not humans. For dog training tips, I invite you to visit the following website: http://bestdogtrainingsolutions.net

Category: Self Help
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