First dates can be a daunting process especially for those dating for the first time after learning of their HIV positive singles status. With your confidence at an all time low it can be hard to actually relax and enjoy the whole process. What you need is a few pointers to get you in the correct frame of mind in order for you to enjoy getting rid of your HIV positive singles status once and forever.

Relax

Your emotions are going to be running riot, this is normal. However you must remember what this date is all about. It is an opportunity to get to know each other and that is all. If it does not work out, what have you lost? Well actually nothing. But you have gained the advantage of knowing that he/she was not the one for you. So hey great… onto looking for the next possibility that may end up being the one you have been searching for to end your HIV singles status!

Dating as an HIV positive single means that you are probably a little agitated and so trying to relax before your big date is a great idea. Taking a slow relaxing bath is a wonderful way to unwind. Make sure you have time for a really leisurely soak and take the telephone off the hook and turn off your mobile to ensure that you will not be disturbed.

Another way to relax is by listening to some calming music. This is great when you are dressing and doing your hair as it will hopefully help to take your mind off of what you are getting ready for.

Dress Accordingly

One easy way to get worked up is by not being able to work out exactly what to wear. For this reason it can be a good idea to try on your clothes the day before. Knowing where you and your date are going will help you be able to correctly dress for the occasion. The last thing you want is to turn up at the cinema in your expensive cocktail dress or in your dinner jacket.

Dressing also includes shoes. Ladies need to ensure that there shoes fit the purpose. Yes heels are great for showing off your legs but not so good for a romantic country walk. Also try not to wear new or tight fitting shoes as you do not want blisters to ruin your evening.
Finishing Touches

Remember this is not a big deal. You are dating with HIV, and positive singles have as much right as anyone. All you are going to do is discover if you have anything in common with this other person. Make sure you look and smell nice. But there is really no need to go overboard. Make up should be natural looking as the majority of men do not like women to be all caked up.

Also try and arrange your hair so that it is as easy to handle as possible. Now is not the time for ultra hold styles. You do not want to have to keep popping to the toilet every half an hour to check how it is holding up. Also go easy on the products. Should things get romantic later on and home in on a goodnight kiss, your date will not want to get caught up in a sticky birds nest.

Remember to clean your teeth before leaving. And dab on a few spots of after shave or perfume to wrists and neck. Again do not go overboard – you want to smell nice not overpowering.

Be Ready to Ask Questions

Have a few questions prepared in advance so that should any awkward silences come into play, you are ready with a covering question. Just think of nice easy conversational questions about your date. Everyone likes to talk about themselves so by making the questions personal you should easily be able to fill the lulls. But beware do not ask anything you would not be prepared to answer yourself, as after answering they may ask you the same thing.

Get Yourself to and From the Venue

No matter if you are male or female, it is a good idea to make your own arrangements concerning transportation. This way you are not reliant upon your date taking you and you can leave whenever you wish. Also should the date not work out then they do not have your home address.

Drink in Moderation

When you are nervous it is easy to reach for your glass and keep taking a sip. Then before you know it you have finished the glass! So be careful and try and drink slowly. Always remembering that if you have not eaten alcohol will get into your system that much faster. Drinking water in between glasses of alcohol will cut your consumption by half.

Enjoy Dating as an HIV Positive Single

At the end of the evening, finish the night off with a goodnight kiss and nothing more. Hopefully this will leave both of you in a state of wanting a second date. Hence you will be half way to eradicating your HIV positive singles status with this one step alone.

The most important point of all is that you enjoy yourself. HIV positive singles can have as much fun as anyone else and should do so. HIV should not govern your life, you need to live life and enjoy each step of the way. For if you are enjoying yourself chances are your date is not either. So relax and have some fun and hopefully you will soon be removing yourself from the HIV positive singles group.

Author Bio: This article is contributed by Alison Pullen from the HIVMatch Publishing Team. She works together with founders Richard and Nigel and writes dating and relationship articles. You can find more about HIV Positive Singles Dating and HIVMatch by visiting their website.

Category: Dating
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