“Give yourself a Kit Kat, give yourself a break!” This slogan is good for work, it’s good for play, but it’s also good for your romantic life. Everybody needs a break. Maybe a break from everything. A break to spend time reflecting, evaluating yourself and your goals.

Taking a break from your partner can cause a couple of things to happen. It can cause you to appreciate how much you need them and appreciate them in your life. It can make you see how easily you could lose your way without them or how much you depend on them for daily support. It gives you a chance to miss them, and in the missing is the truth. The truth about how much you care for them. Knowing this truth can enlighten you and make you understand exactly what is important in your life.

Time away from each other is so important. Encourage, no insist, that you each have time away from each other and spent with important other friends. Women need time to be with women, men need time to be with men. The sexes are called “opposite” after all. And conversations can become very gender-specific at those times, and that’s usually a welcome relief. Men fishing, beer-belching, and telling raunchy jokes; women throwing “tupperware parties” with hired male dancers; neither of these are too far off the exaggeration meter.

Plus, the time away gives the man and the woman a little venting room. The guys can make fun of the wife who always cuts the bread crusts off her sandwiches. The gals can groan over the husband who always leaves whiskers in the sink. Of course, the guys will talk about the wife who always leaves a kiss on the mirror in the morning. And the gals will marvel over the husband who packs a lunch with a note for his wife every day. The same-sex groans and the same-sex laughter are cathartic, they’re healthy. There’s nothing personal or dangerous happening.

After the time away, a surprise bottle of wine, or a bunch of flowers, or a martini on the side board with a roast in the oven, can reaffirm the relationship. Being away makes being together so much more fun. Take care to squeeze every drop of enjoyment you can out of the reunion. New truth will come to that old adage “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.”

So, if the passion has puttered out, if the relationship is turning into a relic, it may be time to split – for awhile. She should go out with her friends. He should go off with his. Both with an eye on doing something special with the other special folks in their lives. Of course, don’t break vows or promises, but every flowering relationship needs a little fresh water from time to time. A night or a weekend away from each other will do both partners a world of good. Because a world of good will result when next they are together.

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