Every day since you first learned of your husband’s emotional affair, it is the first thing you think of when you wake up in the morning. And, it is the last thing that goes through your mind when you are laying in bed at night, falling asleep.

The pain that results from this kind of news is different from woman to woman, wife to wife. But, invariably, the pain is very real. It can feel more like a dull pit in your stomach, or it can feel like a sharp stab to the heart. Or, maybe both at once.

When it comes to how to deal with the knowledge of what he did or is still doing, you certainly have a range of choices. Of course, nobody would blame you if you simply decided to leave him for what he has done. But, you may still deeply love him – despite your anger and pain – and still want to make things work.

If you are wondering how to get over your husband’s emotional affair, here are 3 tips to help you take the right next steps:

1. As a couple, you need to bring the affair to light and acknowledge its reality:

If you are going to try to save your relationship, of highest priority is to start some sort of a healthy dialogue about what has happened. You may have tried with him in the past but gotten nowhere. Either he denies that it ever happened, or he just doesn’t want to talk about it because he is too embarrassed.

Either way, for the healing to really begin for both of you, you are going to need to bring this whole thing out into the open and mutually acknowledge it.

2. You have to get to a place where you can share your feelings without getting into a pattern of mutual blame and accusations:

As the two of you start talking about what happened, it will be extremely easy to fall into a vicious downward spiral of blame, accusations and defensiveness. You will want to blame him for all of the horrible pain he has caused you, while he will be tempted to blame you for something you did that “allowed” or “prompted” him to have the affair. This will be counter-productive.

Instead, focus on sharing your feelings with each other. Start each statement with “I feel.” And, really listen with your head and heart as your partner talks.

3. Decide if you have it in you to commit finding your way back to love again:

Many couples who go through an emotional infidelity – but who decide to stay together anyway – end up just limping along in their relationship. This is not a healthy way to live. To really clean out all of the bad stuff that has built up within each of you, you will need to make a firm commitment to each other that you can get past this. Committing means not just saying it, but really holding the intention in your hearts of getting past all of this and moving on.

Take these 3 tips to heart as you get on the path of surviving your husband’s emotional affair, together.

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