What if someone you love deeply came to you seeking advice or guidance? Not the choice of a movie or the color of a blouse. Something rather life-changing. Would you feel sure that the counsel you offered could be helpful? Many folks have opinions or a set way of doing things and often don’t know where those preferences sprang from. What about yours? More importantly, are they healthy and worth passing along?

Perhaps you’ve never given it much thought. But, before you offer your wisdom, you should be asking yourself why you are offering the advice you feel compelled to impart. Sometimes it’s hard to give advice, especially to a loved one, that is completely impartial and not greasing your own wheels. And sometimes you are not even asked for outright advice, but rather to be a sounding board or to give reassurance for a choice already made.

No matter what form the questions may take or how the advice is dispensed, you need to be sure that your thoughts or suggestions spring from some very thoughtful lovingness and a genuine desire to help. Your ego should not play a part, neither by acting as the wise sage nor by engineering the advice for personal gain.

Offering advice requires a lot of self confidence. You must be sure of your own heart and your own beliefs and have the confidence to back up both should you ever be so challenged. You should have the serenity and the wide view to see the situation without yourself figured in. This may be a time of high emotion for your partner and they may be vulnerable or perhaps too malleable. This charges you with even more responsibility for that advice which you may offer.

One way to gather the serenity and gain the confidence you need is to align your body, mind, and spirit through meditation. The practice itself imbues a being with the serenity needed to see the wide view with the sensibility of love. Indeed, it may become apparent that you cannot divulge much in the way of any specific help because of your own limitations, but you may be able to nudge activity in a generally good direction.

Negative thoughts or negative personal experiences should not be a part of your decision as to what advice you might offer, unless it is to steer the loved one so that they may avoid similar mistakes. If any of the deadly sins (greed, anger, etc.) impels any of the advice you might offer, it won’t be good. If you are at all unsure, don’t give it.

Of course, whether or not your partner takes the advice is for their whim or caprice. Following at least some of the guidance proffered above will put you at ease regarding any counsel you may offer. You will have winnowed out any negativity and probably set up a positive chain of events.

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