You’ve announced the date and are starting to dream about your very special day (perhaps you always have:). There is so much to be done. You are so busy thinking about what you have to do that you haven’t had chance to think of the poor members of the event that have to prepare and give a wedding speech. Did you ever delivered a speech in front of a crowd? You may know that public speaking is one of the greatest fears we have, and someone who will be speaking at your wedding may be shaking at the very thought of giving any form of wedding speech. What you are asking for is of course a great honor and there ARE ways to dramatically improve a person’s chances of delivering one of the greatest wedding speeches in memory.

Wedding speeches come in all styles and lengths. You need to be creative if you want to write one yourself but many have and continue to. One immediate tip here is to keep your speech pretty snappy. The amount of times I have longed for the speeches to end and, looking around, couldn’t help noticing how many others have felt the same. Consider this; there will be guests who aren’t as close as family members so will not hang on every word of an anecdote Cialis Jelly about some incident in the kitchen 10 years ago or something like this. You can easily create warm, heartfelt father of the bride speeches, routine but genuine thank you speeches and humorous and revealing best-man Kamagra jelly speeches that are short yet as meaningful as long ones. All you need is thought and some preparation, so tip 2 is start early getting you ideas down. Make a word sketch. The more time you spend the better the quality your speech will be. Its important to have enough time to review it or add something new. All the best ideas comes when they choose and not all at the same time.

Next is the construction of your wording. Think of your speech like a news item meeting a story. Tell them what you are going to say (place them – get them in the mood). Now say it (a bit more on this later). Conclude by telling them what you’ve just said and round it off with your personal wish for the lucky couple. So Tip 3 is to construct your speech with an introduction, main body and conclusion, remembering the ‘say what you’re going to say, say it and then say what you’ve said’ model.

Next is to make your middle interesting. Tip 4 is to make bullet points of what you feel must be in the speech. You may find that you’ll have a lot of points – probably too many. But as I said before don’t shake too many skeletons in closets and don’t make it too embarrassing – just a little squirming is enough. Here’s what I suggest for Tip 5. Limit your bullet points to only those that the wedding speech could not do without – a ‘has to be there’ like the words in a song. Good songwriters don’t get that long to make propecia effects their points so make every word count. Be a bit ruthless here, it will help the overall tracking and performance of the speech.

Tip 6 recommends you use words that are evocative – that paint pictures, so that listener’s own imaginations takes them places. Sensory words and mentions of school, playing outdoors in Summer (or Winter), family holidays and so on will lead the listener into wonderful memories of their own experiences and the resulting effect will be a feeling of warmth and familiarity that will make your wedding speech a huge hit and memorable in feeling probably more than the actual content.

Now comes the area I mentioned at the beginning.

Tip 7 is about how to deal with any nerves around giving a speech. One technique is a bit bonkers but works. Go into a restaurant of one sort and ask for a meal of a totally different sort. For example, go into Macdonalds and ask for a Chinese meal or spaghetti bolognese at least twice. You may feel very stupid – but you will definitely learn to conquer that fear. This is about building your psychological conditioning (more on this http://www.fulfil.ltd.uk).

Nerves can be dealt with by getting used to dealing with them. Another way is to keep connecting with the joyous and wonderful occasion of the wedding rather than what will happen if you mess it up. By this I mean, whenever you are writing or rehearsing the speech, work to keep any thoughts on the happy side, not the fear side. This will in effect anchor the speech to happiness. If you get an image of you tripping over your words, work that picture to the smiling faces of your friends and family – the mind prefers pleasure to pain.

Tip 8 is to record the speech and listen to the rhythm and flow of your words. Work on delivering a Welsh version of the speech (without the accent). The Welsh have an engaging lyrical quality to their speech. They can tell you the most boring thing and you feel entranced by the way the words rise and fall. It’s a great quality.

Tip 9 is to practice, practice, practice. We develop habits through repetition. Try the speech out on different people. Ask for feedback. They may give you a great idea you hadn’t considered. Listen to the listeners and find out what they like to hear.

Last tip everybody is to enjoy it! Its going to be a wonderful Wedding and your small part will be one of the vital pieces that make up one of the most wonderful days you’ll remember. The day you gave your first Wedding Speech.

Author Bio: John Sammers is a certified life coach, a certified level 2 EFT practitioner, a certified Ericksonian Hypnotherapist, a certified Master NLP practitioner, a certified Sequential Mind Technologist and a Member of the British Institute of Hypnotherapy and the General Register of Hypnotherapy. He is also on the NHS Register of Complimentary Therapists. He has worked with many clients over the 7 years he has been a therapist and coach, helping many people achieve their goals. www.fulfil.ltd.uk http://www.bestweddingwording.com/bwwsp01.htm

Category: Marriage
Keywords: wedding wording, wedding speeches, best man speeches, bride speeches