Getting your ex boyfriend or girlfriend back into your life is not easy but it can be done! If you have recently broken up then one thing you do NOT want to be doing is trying to stay in contact. Why?

Because all that shows your ex is that you don’t have a life to lead away from them. And how attractive do you think that is? The more you push your ex the farther they will run. It is a simple fact of life!

There is an old saying my grandmother was very fond of- Slowly slowly catchee monkee!

Let me ask you a question. How much interest do you think you are going to get from your ex if-

1. You are always around, trying to talk to them, ringing them constantly, sending notes and flowers daily?

2. You are out enjoying yourself, meeting new friends, doing new things, dating or travelling?

The first option tells your ex that you are needy, desperate and will run to them whenever they want. The second on the other hand shows that you are independent and in demand!

Now put yourself in the shoes of your ex. If you were him or her which one of those options would you find attractive in a new partner? New?

Yes you read it right! Forget about going back to your old relationship, it no longer exists but for the memories. It hurts to think that way I know but it is a fact that you are going to have to face. Any relationship that you are going to have with your ex has to be a new one!

The reasons for this are simple. Your ex must find you attractive again, must look upon a relationship with you as an attractive proposition, committing to you as a partner a worthwhile idea and feel attracted to you sexually. These things must be looked at as being new to your ex so you have to change the way your ex views you. Here is an example.

If your relationship was marred by constant rows then your ex is not going to find the idea of going back to that very appealing! After all you wouldn’t want to go back to a relationship like that would you?

So what to do? The answer to this question is quite simple. Take some time out of your day, sit down where you won’t be disturbed, close your eyes and imagine yourself as an outsider looking in on your old relationship. This is not very easy to do but it is a wonderful technique for taking your mind off your current heartbreak and also enabling you to see a lot more clearly.

Once you are able to look at your relationship from the point of view of a stranger then you can pinpoint those areas where arguments tended to start. Something about your home, or maybe his or her refusal to tidy up, perhaps the two of you had got into a rut and you or your ex was bored?

It may surprise you to see that a lot of your disagreements with your ex probably had to do with the same thing. In fact most of your arguments were probably repetitive, the same ones coming up again and again simply because the underlying problem has not been dealt with!

Now you can start to work out how to deal with that problem so that if you get the chance to start a NEW relationship with your old lover that problem won’t be a problem any more!

Author Bio: Jerry R Love is a professional writer specializing in relationship problems. It’s a fact that over 90% of broken relationships can be brought back to life! Click here to find out how to Get Your Ex Back

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