Every married person needs one or more things from their relationship. If that were not true, they would never have gotten married in the first place.

While the specific set of needs that each married person holds in their heart vis-a-vis their marriage is different, there are certain needs that the vast majority of people who choose to get married need from the relationship. These include:

* companionship
* affection and warmth
* sex
* someone to have and raise children with (if desired)
* someone to share in the economics of running a household

Of course, not everyone gets their needs met all of the time in a marriage. And, this is to be expected: life is complicated and we cannot always control how things go. However, one of the basic needs that women, in particular, expect from their marriage is some degree of affection from their husbands. When this is lacking, it can make the marriage feel cold and empty at times.

If you are saying, “I need my husband to show me his affection,” here are 5 steps to getting his affection back:

1. Directly communicate your need for more affection to him:

Your need for affection is indeed a natural one, but it may not be obvious to your husband. Some people are just not naturally affectionate by nature. If your husband fits this description, he may not be fully aware of the extent of your need – no matter how many times you may have tried to hint at it indirectly. It is time to take the direct approach and tell him outright that you have the need for him to show you more affection. Be polite and open, not commanding.

2. Let him know the ways in which you would like him to show you affection:

But, don’t stop there. Affection can be shown in myriad ways. Be specific in telling him your needs. For example, do you need more hand-holding? More hugging and kissing? More conversation? More laughter? More physical intimacy? Be bold and be direct – it’s the only way to get what you want.

3. Hold a mutual massage night at home:

Physical contact begets more physical contact. Find ways to set aside time to give each other massages, backrubs, or cuddling in bed. The more you do it, the more you will naturally want to do it.

4. Ask what you can do for him:

Affection flows both ways. Ask your husband what you can do for him to express to him your love. This may include more physical intimacy, especially if he feels that the two of you do not have sex often enough. It could also include doing something special for him around the house or cooking his favorite meal more often.

5. Make yourself as appealing as possible:

For men more than for women, sex and affection go hand-in-hand. The more sexually appealing you make yourself, the more likely he is to give you the kind of attention you are craving. Spend just a bit more time primping yourself in the morning, hitting the gym a bit more often, and wearing makeup (if that is your style) every day. These things will signal to him that you care about how you look to him.

Try these 5 steps to getting your husband to show you his affection more deeply and more frequently.

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Category: Marriage
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