Do you know how many people have tried desperately to get back together with someone they have broken up with only to fall flat on their faces and realizing, in hindsight, how humiliating all the frantic ploys they tried were? Rekindling a romance that fizzled out is fraught with danger. Not the kind of danger that may kill you unless you consider rejection a life threatening possibility. The danger here is having your heart broken piece by piece after each thing you do in getting the one you love back does not work.

However, it is not fair to say that getting back together with an ex is not something in the realm of possibility. The fact is, there is always a chance, even if it is just a sliver of it, of two people getting back together after a break up. People have dished out advice on the things you should do in order to make this happen, but have you ever given a thought to the things you should NOT do when getting the one you love back?

1. Do not pick up that phone. Calling every few minutes to \”just say ‘hi\’ and see how you are doing\” is not going to win you any points. It can be downright irritating to get persistent calls or even text messages from an ex when all the other person wants right now is some time and space. When your ex is ready to talk, then make the effort to have an honest and open face-to-face conversation.

2. Do not go into stalker mode. Casually bumping into your ex at the mall or grocery is one thing but \”accidental\” meetings in places all over town, especially in places you used to frequent, is downright creepy. As with the first \”NOT\” tip, give your ex some breathing room. Following him or her around like a little lovesick puppy will make him or her realize that breaking up with you was the RIGHT thing to do. Do not wait until your ex takes one look at you, turns around, and runs away to make you realize that stalking is not a good idea.

3. Do not be a slave to love. In your desperation to get back into the good graces of your ex, you may be tempted to do his or her every single biding. Stop yourself right there. A relationship is about being equal partners, not about having a slave who does everything the other person wants and agrees with every single thing that the other person feels, thinks, and says. No one wants to be with an overly agreeable person. It may seem like a dream come true in the beginning but that dream will soon turn into a nightmare when the resentment starts to seep in at you being a doormat of sorts and the other person being bored with a \”yes man\”.

Getting the one you love back will take time and hard work but if you feel that your ex is worth it and that life was much better with him or her in it than out of it, then roll up your sleeves, remain focused, and keep the faith alive.

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