Did you know that divorce rates today are the highest ever in America?

It\’s certainly not good news, but at least that means you\’re not the only abandoned husband who wants to learn how to get your wife back…Far from it.

In fact, the percentage of marriages ending in divorce has been steadily increasing for the past 30 years…Only in the last few years are we finally starting to see a plateau (in other words, it\’s stopped rising). But do you know what the current % of divorced couples is?

Just take a guess…I dare ya.

Get this – Current estimates state that between 40% – 55% of marriages will end in divorce.

Now I want you to really think about that for a little bit, let that sink in.

Even if you account for people who\’ve had multiple failed marriages (second, third and fourth marriages are significantly more likely to end in divorce), clearly we as a society are doing something wrong when it comes to marriage.

Divorce rates should NEVER be that high!

I Know Divorce Rates Are High; How Do I Get My Wife Back?

With more broken marriages ending in divorce, obviously there are also many more marriage counselors and divorce attorneys… It seems that some people are doing very, very well for themselves thanks to this tragic trend in marital health.

Coincidence?

Maybe not. Especially once you consider that despite this enormous spike in marriage counselors and the marriage counseling industry as a whole, when it comes down to brass tacks very few people actually know Jack Diddley about saving a marriage relationship, or rebuilding lost love between two people.

In fact, I would wager to say that most people are wasting time pursuing so-called \’relationship building\’ strategies that are not only pointless, but actively counter productive. Check out these chilling statistics:

* Fun Fact #1. Researchers say that within two years of marriage counseling, studies find that 25% of couples are worse off than they were when they started, and after 4 years, up to 38% are divorced. (source)

* Fun Fact #2. Recent studies have also shown that only 12% of private practice marriage therapists have elected to take even a single college-level course in marital therapy.

* Fun Fact #3. Marriage counselors and psychiatrists have the highest divorce rates of any medical profession…Period.

And you want to trust these people with your marriage?

Get Your Wife Back By Doing the Opposite of Everyone Around You

It sounds almost too sad to be true, but it\’s really come to the point where a safe rule of thumb to stop a divorce is to do the exact opposite of what everyone else is doing.

Everyone Says Communication is the Key to Re-Igniting Your Marriage

As I believe I have already hinted at, this extremely common recommendation is actually based off of what would almost seem like solid logic.

This recommendation exists because of the assumption that a good, healthy marriage also has good, healthy communication. This is a reasonable assumption, certainly, since most of the healthy and thriving marriages that I know of DO have very open communication between spouses.

Sounds great, right?

Here\’s the problem: Just because open communication works well for a couple with a rocksolid foundation of love, trust and happiness doesn\’t mean it will work equally well for you to repair a broken relationship with a shattered foundation of apathy, desperation and hopelessness.

Communication works differently when your wife has hardened her heart, and most people don\’t realize that.

I mean think about it, it\’s sort of like saying you should talk to a stranger the same way you would talk to your best friend, or that you should talk to your boss the same way you talk to your office buddies…You don\’t tell dirty or racist or sexist or gross jokes to your boss, even if you do to your closer coworkers. Your boss would, at best, look at you with disgust for the remainder of the day and, at worst, fire you.

Why?

Because it\’s apples and oranges; each of those relationships – boss to coworker AND healthy marriage to unhealthy marriage – require a different type of communication.

Maybe that wasn\’t the best example in the world, but I hope you understand what I\’m saying. What you should take away is that good communication alone isn\’t going to solve your marriage. Not at this point. You can\’t just talk to your wife and change her mind about something so based in emotion. You have to WIN HER HEART, and communication is NOT the key to her heart.

Everyone Says that Showing You Care is the Key to Getting Her Back

If you have ever been to marriage counseling, then I\’d be willing to bet that you have heard this one or something similar a couple times before.

This is a favorite of your average marriage counselor because it\’s easy, sounds good, and seems logical. If your wife feels loved, it\’s only natural that she\’ll love you back, right?

But as we\’ve already learned, logic does not fix marriages, and this is one more example of a strategy that sounds good but won\’t actually work in practice.

Here are some other common marriage solutions that don\’t solve anything…

* Telling Her You Love Her won\’t fix your marriage

* Regular Date Nights won\’t get her back

* Making Intimacy Time for each other will not make a difference

* Leaving Her Cute Little Notes won\’t fix your marriage

* Acts of Service won\’t save your marriage

Why won\’t any of these things work? Why will they actively push your wife further away from you?

Because right now she views you as weak, smothering and boring, and until she FEELS differently about you (notice the keyword, \’FEELS\’) she\’s not going to be receptive to any romantic gestures… Instead she will feel pressured, pushed and manipulated.

She will be able to see right through what you\’re trying to do, and because she knows your end goal, her mind will throw up that defensive emotional wall that keeps her from wanting you back.

Everyone Says Lavishing Her is the Key to Saving Your Marriage

This one is probably more commonly heard from your buddies then from your marriage counselor… Many men are really and truly convinced that if they shower their wife with love and affection (and gifts) that she will change her mind and decide to stay with you.

However, for similar reasons that we\’ve already listed – This will not work!

Even if lavishing your wife somehow did make a difference in your relationship, is that really how you want to fix your marriage…By essentially bribing your wife to stay with you? Do you really want to stay married to a woman who only loves you because you shower her with attention and give her everything she wants materially, not because she actually loves you or wants to be with you?

Sounds too much like the psychological mind games that more than a few women use to subdue their husbands if you ask me…In the end all you get is a relationship based on dishonesty.

Now I\’m NOT telling you never to do nice things for your wife, I\’m just saying that now isn\’t the time or place to make this your main goal. Your marriage will require a deeper change than that if you ever want to get your wife back before she leaves, or after separation or divorce.

I\’m sure you\’ve heard all these tips at some point or another – Communicate with your wife, Soften her heart by showing you care, Lavish her with gifts – but I want you to realize that these WILL NOT SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE!

Many other abandoned husbands have fallen for these same traps spread around by the marriage counseling industry…Luckily for you, I\’m here to tell you that these tips won\’t do you any good.

Again, as I\’ve stressed countless times before on Husband Help Haven, the key to saving your marriage and stopping a divorce dead in it\’s tracks is…

How to Get Your Wife Back? The Key is Attraction!

You must, must, MUST build attraction with your wife, and once you do that I can virtually guarantee that everything else will fall into place naturally. When your now-hard-hearted wife FEELS that she wants you back, she will STOP second guessing your marriage and START second guessing her desire to leave.

Recommended – Open Communication Won\’t Save Your Marriage

If you\’ve been trying to figure out how to get your wife back, this is it. Of course, you\’re more than welcome to browse HusbandHelpHaven.com for more free information, but I strongly encourage you give that page a read.

I wish you the best of luck getting your wife back!

– Jacob Elichmann

If you\’ve been trying to figure out how to get your wife back, this is it. You\’re highly recommended to learn more about how to change the way your wife feels about being with you and becoming a manly husband at http://HusbandHelpHaven.com
Best of luck getting your wife back!
– Jacob Elichmann

Author Bio: Recommended – Open Communication Won\’t Save Your Marriage

If you\’ve been trying to figure out how to get your wife back, this is it. Of course, you\’re more than welcome to browse HusbandHelpHaven.com for more free information, but I strongly encourage you give that page a read.

I wish you the best of luck getting your wife back!

– Jacob Elichmann

Category: Marriage
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